G is for Genuine
“Remember to always be yourself. Unless you suck.” -- Joss Whedon
This is one of my favorite quotes of all time…from one of my favorite writers. Until I reached my later years, I always struggled with the concept of being yourself…or appearing genuine…because I didn’t have a good sense of who that was.
I feel we’re all a work-in-progress, constantly re-imagining the concept of who we are…what we stand for…what are our values…attempting to solidify the blurry lines that define our identity. But as we grow older I believe that process slows down and we’re more fully formed…like an emotional Jell-O mold hardening. Maybe we just care less about others think of us – because isn’t that what drives a lot of change anyway – and we stop adapting to conform? Is that why being genuine when it comes to the elderly is often labeled as being stubborn – or hardheaded?
Whatever the reason, these days I feel about as genuine as someone can be. I’m comfortable with my place in the world and the goals I still have before me. For years I fought against my introverted-shy nature and tried to interact with the world on its terms, but I no longer feel the necessity to do that. You’ll not find me following society’s blue-print for selling yourself anymore. I’m going to be the true me.
Wait a minute…you say…you’re a writer, and if you ever hope to sell any books - won’t that mean selling yourself…in a public fashion. Wouldn’t that contradict everything you’ve been saying about being genuine? The short answer – NO. I genuinely love being around writers, people who want to talk about writing, and especially those who want to discuss MY writing. This is an arena that I don’t feel like I stand out (in a negative way) and can contribute as much as I receive. I am at home with the writer crowd.
That’s just another way it’s easy to be myself nowadays. I’ve found my niche.